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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Responsible_Body_746 on 2023-09-02 15:59:56.
I (F35) had a child with Sam (M36) when we were 22. We had used protection, but it didn’t work. I wanted to get an abortion and informed Sam. Sam on the other hand was very pro life and absolutely refused. I told him I wanted nothing to do with a child. He said I can just give the child to him.
When Ally (F13) was born, I gave him all the rights, waving away my own. We parted ways and haven’t seen each other since.
A week back, I got a call from Amy, Sam’s sister saying Sam died a few months back. She cannot take Ally in cause she is already a single mother of three and struggling to make ends meet. Sam never married or has anyone in his life.
I asked what she wanted me to do.
She said since I was her mother, I should be taking her in.
I told her, I am sorry for Ally, but she is not my daughter. I waived all my rights for a reason. I am working insane hours in a job I love and have more plans for my life. I can’t do this with a child I never wanted.
I understood Ally was in a tough spot so I offered Amy a sum monthly to take care of Ally instead.
Amy said I was an AH.
AITA?