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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Haunting_Dig_3871 on 2023-09-02 11:55:28.

I (F26) have a brother (M34) who is schizophrenic. When he’s on his medication, he functions normally. Unfortunately, he was diagnosed in his 20s and thinks nothing is wrong with him so he doesn’t take his medication. I have another brother who passed away a few years ago, during that time my family asked me to move back home because they wanted me to be there. I was already moving due to COVID so I said I would because it would give me a chance to save for a house and finish college. After I moved in, my family pushed my brothers care solely onto me. I had to drop out of college because I was afraid my professor and other students would hear my brother having an episode (online classes due to covid), I’ve lost jobs because my brother would keep me up all night for days straight and I couldn’t function properly or wake up in time for work. The only thing I’m able to do is call the cops/ambulance when it gets really bad so police/paramedics can admit him to a psychiatric hospital. In the 3 years I’ve lived here, I have called and handled him every time with no help from my family. My brother is an adult so if he refuses help they won’t take him and I’m stuck having to deal with by myself. I’ve had times where I left my room to find my brother having a seizure on the floor and not breathing to him destroying things and threatening me. On top of this, my family constantly asks me for money and to buys stuff for the house. I’ve paid over $10,000 this year just helping with bills. It’s gotten to the point where I am incredibly burnt out and want to leave. I love my brother and family but it’s gotten to be too much and I can’t progress or move forward. I’ve started to grow resentment towards my parents because they won’t do anything. They’re both trying to convince me to take over power of attorney because they’re “too old”. My mother has helped out with bills but hasn’t done much to help my brother. My father hasn’t done anything at all. Would I be the asshole if I told my parents it’s their responsibility to take care of my brother and not mine? I don’t want to cause trouble but I feel like I will never have a life if this continues.