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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Few-Run-8107 on 2023-09-02 11:14:03.
My wife Mia and I have three children and we’re expecting our fourth. Two of our three kids are not named after others, we just really loved their names. Our oldest, however, she’s named Taylor, after the nurse who delivered her and saved her and my wife’s lives. Nurse Taylor did something I can never repay him for and without him they wouldn’t be here today. It seemed fitting to honor him.
My family assumed that naming Taylor after someone would mean we would do the same with our other kids. But we had never planned on using honor names. Special circumstances and a very special man are why we did with our oldest.
My parents and siblings, since learning of this pregnancy, and knowing it’s our last, have dropped comments about honor names and how special and beautiful it would be for the youngest to hold a name that honors someone in their family. I/we always told them we would not be giving our youngest an honor name and I told them to let the topic go. Mia got a lot of comments behind my back because they were willing to press harder on her than me. They used a few guilt cards which I do not appreciate.
After my wife was left a lengthy voicemail about the importance of honoring those closest to us and making Taylor feel less alone in being the only one named after someone, I had grown sick and tired of my family.
So I stopped by my parents house and asked my siblings to come and told them they want the youngest to be given an honor name? Fine. Then they better get ready to go above and beyond and save one of our lives because that is the level they need to meet. I said if they did not, or could not do that, to shut up about it and accept the fact our child will get a name we love.
My family called me a rude ass and said I was behaving like a petty child throwing that in their faces. AITA?