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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sexiisavii on 2023-09-02 08:54:47.
Hey guys. Never posted something like this before, but this has been driving me crazy. I have a long distance best friend, and she flies in pretty often to come see me.
She last flew in for my birthday for a week. This trip was a bit different from all of the others, though. My husband has recently gotten back from a very long deployment, so this was the first trip where he was present.
We had lots of plans for my birthday, one of which was a fancy dinner at a Hibachi place with my husband. She called shot gun on the way there, which at first I thought was kinda innocent, and my 4 year old loved the idea of me sitting in the back. I’m a pretty passive person, so I just let it slide. But my husband gave me THE eyes.
After dinner, she called shot gun again, and said I would be DJ. I just let it slide again, because it didn’t bother me too much, but then I wasn’t even DJ (lol.) It also did feel like a respect thing to me, to just not call shotgun in your best friends car while her husband is driving. It’s just something I personally wouldn’t do. But I let it slide.
Then, the next day, we had more things planned. While we were getting ready, I handed my husband the keys and announced clearly infront of her in the living room that I wanted him to drive and I wanted to be the passenger princess.
When we walked out to the car, she automatically just walked to the front seat, and my husband just started looking at me in disbelief.
She never sits in the front with me when my husband is also in the car. My husband always sits next to me.
There’s other things that I’m starting to notice as well, but I think she might be into my husband? She’s always really liked him and took up for his side of things when we fight. Or, maybe she just doesn’t respect me as much as I think she does, which is also concerning and a problem for me. Am I the asshole for wanting to distance myself?