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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No_Relationship_3848 on 2023-09-01 21:53:39.

Me 34F have been married to my husband 37M for 11 years today. I honestly wasn’t expecting anything. Ever since having kids we don’t go all out on anniversaries/birthdays Or Christmas. Life is hectic for us and usually neither one of us gets a chance to go shopping for other. So once again I don’t expect anything.

A few weeks ago I mentioned to him how I wanted a ring updated even sent him a link to a website that sold inexpensive rings of what I was thinking about. He asked if that what I wanted I said yah am good with that. Fast forward to a few days ago we go back to school shopping for our boys. I try on Birkenstocks, am amazed at how comfortable they actually are. He says buy them, I say hmm am unsure. (Side note I am a very indecisive buyer. I need to think about my purchases and pick out the perfect item if am going to spend that much) so I leave them and exclaim I’ll do some research and figure out which kind I want. Am excited at the thought of trying on different ones.

Fast forward to today, I make breakfast for everyone a little more fancy than normal. I have to work for a couple of hours. My husband uses this opportunity to go back to the mall to buy the Birkenstocks I tried on as an anniversary gift. Long story short I want to take them back because I didn’t decide these are the ones I wanted. Now his mad am not grateful. I just feel some kind of way on the low effort gift and getting mad because that’s not what I wanted. I do feel like a brat though. I mean he did do something nice right? Am I the asshole?