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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/GreyCatsAreCute on 2023-09-01 15:45:55.
We’ve been married 10 years. My husband’s weight had always fluctuated and so has mine. But the last two years he started drinking heavily and basically became sedentary besides going to work. He also works overnights so I understand his eating schedule is completely out of whack. But he has gained so much weight I find myself very unattracted to him like 90% of the time, and it’s to the point where he just begs me and nags me for any sort of physical or intimate attention and I just don’t have it in me to give to him. I’ve brought the health aspects up to him and he straight up says he doesn’t care. All the men in his family died early from heart attacks, and all the women from liver failure or disease. So it’s also like I’m just waiting to become a young widow eventually too. I don’t even look forward to sex much anymore because he has to stop like 2 or 3 times to catch his breath and he absolutely DRIPS with sweat. Like completely soaked in sweat. And I can’t even straddle him because he’s too wide.
I just don’t know how to feel because I gained 100lbs when I had our baby, and he has never ever cared or said anything besides how much he loved my body. I lost all the weight and he loves my deflated post baby body now too.
Am I just being a bitch? I try to bring it up to him because I care about his health and he just thinks I’m attacking him.