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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Software-Substantial on 2023-09-01 14:36:24.
I’m extremely irritated and I need women to rant to because all summer men have just been making me so upset. I had this long-distance situationship with this guy in the spring and although he was a good person, we fought way too much for us not even being together (as well as other reasons). I told him I wanted to cut-ties because there was no way to mend our feuds. This was June. Yesterday evening (August 31st), I got a message from him from an entirely different app (he said he looked up my old account name on GOOGLE!!) and messaged me to ask how I was doing.
At first I was kind about it because I didn’t want to fight, but hours later I really got heated because I felt disrespected and honestly an invasion of my privacy. He crossed my boundaries. He said the cut-off felt “rushed” and him feeling “abandoned”. But talking to him was making me abandon my mental health. Why don’t men understand when women say to leave them alone? Why couldn’t he acknowledge that although he found my account, there’s a possibility that hearing from him would kill my mood? He thought about himself. And looking me up on Google was way too far. It’s been over 2 months, and my life changed a lot since, so it feels like a grave has been dug up. I had to end up blocking him and deleting my account, but it’s not fair that I get to feel awful and guilty for breaking things off for the 3rd time (even having my dream being about him last night) because HE wouldn’t go away!