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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Informal-Virus376 on 2023-08-31 17:35:54.

My brother recently proposed to his now fiance who i’ll call Sky.

My brother and Sky have been dating since highschool, and since then we haven’t gotten along. She’s very dependent on my brother, and doesn’t like to share his attention. My brother was in basketball and when we went to his games, she would look for me and tell me not to cheer and got upset when I did.

We had the same agriscience class together, and when I was talking to my friends for advice she would overhear and tell my brother I was talking bad about her behind her back. Some if my brothers friends even talked about how odd her behavior was whenever my brother would shift attention. She would act aloof around my parents as well.

My brother said her behavior was because she didn’t have a good home life, and I believe that. But I decided to keep my distance around her.

When we graduated, she didn’t want to keep living at home so my parents allowed her to live with us. I was against it but my parents insisted because she had no where else to go. Living with her wasn’t better, and she wanted more of my brothers attention.

He would promise me that he’d make up for loss time but then he started canceling our plans and stopped attending my birthdays because of Sky and he didn’t want to upset her. I decided to go low contact because I stopped expecting anything

when my brother got a job after college, he worked on getting Sky therapy. She’s been in therapy for almost 3 years. I don’t know how she is now.

He recently proposed to Sky, and he announced it to the family. He invited people over to his home to announce it and I did not come. I heard from my cousin. Hes been texting me through our parents phone asking to talk because he wants me to play a big part in their wedding and reconnect. He also said Sky is sorry.

I think he made his priorities clear when he constantly chose Sky over me. I told him I would not be attending his wedding and now my family is mad at me. They told me Sky went through a lot and is getting help, so I can’t blame her past behavior and my brother helping her. AITA?