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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Icy_Purchase5342 on 2023-08-30 19:05:07.
My wife and I split chores pretty evenly. I maybe cook a little more as I wfh. We have a deal that if you don’t cook, you clean up afterwards.
We have an open plan kitchen/living space and I can’t eat if the kitchen is messy. It grosses me out looking at the mess and puts me off my food. I have asked her to clean up before she eats but she refuses and says she’ll do it after. She does always do it after but that isn’t the point. I would prefer it done before we eat.
She says I should tidy as I go along like she does so there is less mess at the end but I think that goes against the rule of cooks don’t clean. I have started to refuse to cook and she’s annoyed at me.
AITA?