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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Brilliant-Bid-8622 on 2023-08-30 16:15:15.
My mom called me last week and told me that my stepsister (25f) was stranded with nowhere to go. I (25m) have not seen or spoken to her in 7 years and said no to her staying overnight with me. I told my mom the name of a couple of safe hotels and considered that my effort to help. My mom was pissed. She asked me why I wasn’t willing to let her stay and I said someone I have not spoken to or seen in 7 years is basically a stranger and I didn’t want her in my place for that reason. Not to mention I live with roommates so it’s not like it’s my decision alone.
I have known my stepsister since we were 7 but we did not bond as siblings despite living in the same house and never cared about each other to stay in touch once we moved out for college. I don’t know if she still feels the same but we used to consider ourselves only children and I still consider myself an only. She’s in no way close to my mom. I’m okay with her dad but nowhere near as close to him as I am my mom.
The news that we had not had any contact in 7 years was news to my mom and she promptly dropped it. But her husband and her MIL were furious that I would think of that as a good excuse to leave a young woman in a strange (to her) place without somewhere to go. They said we are family and I didn’t even ask my roommates. I just said no. They told me I should be ashamed and disgusted with myself. He told me he would expect the same of her in my shoes and how could I not feel bad about leaving her with possibly nowhere safe to stay.
She couldn’t get a room anywhere so I think she stayed overnight at the bus station and waited for a bus she could get on the next morning.
AITA?