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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Easy_Consideration_5 on 2023-08-30 15:26:50.
Hi guys— I was wondering if I could get some opinions on this. Basically, my roommate has a friend from home who has integrated into our main group. He doesn’t live in the city we do but he lives in a suburb nearby, and he’s expressed interest in moving close to us.
I’m close and chill with my roommates and enjoy their company. But the thing is this guy has been really weird with me and other girls at parties, and he messages me a lot. He’s made me very uncomfortable when I was very drunk, talked to me about how much he wanted to get with me, and continued to make multiple passes even though I literally sat him down and said I wasn’t interested and that it was making me uncomfortable. Like, I completely spelt it out.
This person is going through a mental health crisis, and my friends really want to be there for him. But at this point, I don’t want him to be around. They know about all of this and how uncomfortable he has made me but still insist that he comes to parties and other gatherings out of a sense of responsibility for his mental health.
He’s talked to me about his dark thoughts before, but I don’t know why I have to be the receptacle for that. I’ve been through my own significant mental health struggles throughout my life, but I never continued to like creep on someone when they pretty much begged me to stop.
I’ve said that I don’t want to see him anymore, and I don’t really know what to do. He always wants my attention and I don’t like him that way at all, but I don’t feel like it matters to anyone. I understand he’s going through a rough time but I personally don’t have the patience for being hit on, and last year I got out of a really sexually abusive relationship that has made me extremely wary of men. Thanks for reading :)