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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/stacko- on 2023-08-30 15:29:53.
I’ve been laughing about this since yesterday. I’ve been talking to this guy for a week or so and we went for coffee yesterday. After we were done he invited me to his place and I declined. Then he asked if he can come over to mine and I declined. I told him I don’t like the thought of being over at each others places when we don’t know each other that well and have no relationship. I don’t remember exactly what he asked but it was something along the lines of “does that mean you wouldn’t have sex with someone you’re not in a relationship with?” I said yes I probably wouldn’t. There are many reasons for this but it’s mostly because I’m demisexual. I can’t find a random man sexually attractive when we have no sort of relationship or strong emotional bond.
He then put up some fake empathetic voice and said that’s the effect of purity culture and many women have been me before and realised that they were just shackled by purity culture. He also said I’d probably thank him once I realised the effects it has on me and will stop holding myself back from living. All I could do was laugh, laugh and laugh. I told him I know myself and me not wanting to have sex with a stranger doesn’t mean I’m deeply entrenched in purity culture. He tried convincing me but I had enough and left.
I wonder if he genuinely believed the shit that was coming from his mouth or if he was just trying to be manipulative. He reminded me of the men that use therapy speech to manipulate women. I think that had I been a few years younger (I’m 22), I may have fallen for the shit he was spewing and started to doubt myself.