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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TiDDzMagee on 2023-08-29 20:05:03.
Like many men, my husband spends about half an hour on the bog. I have no idea why, or how, it takes so long, but it’s takes an age.
This didn’t bother me before we had a baby. Now, it irks me no end.
He got back from work today. He held the baby for a whole 5 minutes before the baby began screaming.
So, my husband just hands the baby back to me. I have to eat my dinner (which I made) while holding a screaming baby. I had to ask twice for him to take the baby when he’d finished eating so I could finish.
As soon as I’d finished my food, he’s like “I need the toilet” while holding the baby out for me to take. I simply told him no. I told him to spend some time with the baby and stop palming them off on me.
(Edit for clarification: I asked him to wait for 10 minutes, specifically. I didn’t say he couldn’t use it at all. I feel I should have made that clearer.)
My husband has zero skills in soothing our crying baby. He just hands the baby back as soon as the crying begins, or he just goes “there there” while he continues doing whatever he’s doing. It annoys me that he doesn’t try or practice getting our baby to calm down.
So, am I the asshole for telling my husband not to go to the toilet?