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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/livviiaaaa on 2023-08-29 16:57:19.

My (23F) boyfriend (22M) is broke and doesn’t want to change. For back story, we’ve been “on and off” the past four years. Experienced lots of significant changes in eachother throughout the years. I moved to a different state, very far from our home, on my own last year. He didn’t want to move with me and was happy in our hometown, he has lots of amazing close friends there. We separated and after sometime decided we still wanted to be together. We visited eachother and then planned for his move here. Since we’ve been living together, he’s barely been getting by financially and pretty behind on bills since his job hunt was longer than we expected. I make a very decent wage, that I’m easily able to take care of myself and then some. I’m making basically 3x what he makes. The job he is currently working is going to barely get him by on bills, so I thought maybe I could have his rent be fixed every month and I pay a little more to make things easier. I don’t really see anything wrong with it as I don’t really care about gender roles and it only makes sense since I’m bringing in so much more income. I’ve tried my best to teach him about finances and give him ideas for careers to hold us down until our creative ventures become revenue one day. He doesn’t care about any of that and has no desire to make money or get financial stable until his passions and hobbies take off. He’s extremely talented and beautiful and I know will be so successful one day. He puts in a lot of work in his hobbies. But obviously we still need plans for the day to day to survive and be comfortable and he is completely disinterested and it’s taking a toll on my own finances. He also hasn’t found a way to profit from his hobbies yet. I don’t know when that will be. But I’m scared I’m going to be miserable in the meantime. I have a lot of financial goals and things I want to do with my life and taking care of another person puts that on the back burner. His plans are the opposite, struggle until major success. I love him to death and want to get married but I’m nervous about his finances. How do y’all think this dynamic will age?