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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/blackjeans93 on 2023-08-29 12:47:07.
Hi everyone. My husband and I (I’m 29 and he’s in his 30s) have been attending couples therapy for over a year, we’ve been together for 7 years. Whilst we have made some progress in helping us understand each others issues, the one thing I really wanted him to get to grips with is his unreasonable anger when triggered. He blames me for everything and can’t accept logic in these situations. I appreciate he may not be able to help it to some degree but I’m just so tired of it every time it rears it’s ugly head. He gets angry over the most random things, there is no rhyme or reason to it and I’m on edge all the time and feel I can’t express my feelings for offending him. I’ve of course explained this in therapy but he lost his shit over how I never talk to him and how that triggers him too. I am getting to a point where I’m no longer looking forward to time spent together because I know how he will behave, I just don’t know when it will happen. He’s said several times in therapy that he doesn’t know if he’d be able to keep going if I wasn’t with him so I’m afraid if I put my foot down and tell him I don’t want to be with him unless he bucks his ideas up that he’ll unalive himself. I don’t think he’s a monster I just can’t deal with his demons that make me out to be one all the time. Does anyone have any advice in this regard? Thank you.