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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/bouha398 on 2023-08-28 16:39:27.

I (29M) am the father of 3 kids (10M, 4M and 2M) with my wife (29F), my older sister, Claire (33F) has 3 sons as well (13M, 10M, and 5M), with a 4th son due next month.

My oldest son, Adrian and my sister’s middle son, Edwin are in the same class together, they just started the 5th grade last week. Adrian and Edwin have always been pretty close to each other as they share the same interests and I, my older sister and our younger brother see each other all the time, his 2 daughters are not school age yet though.

Edwin and Adrian can be challenging kids, especially Edwin. Both of them are into pretty niche anime, stuff like Pokemon and gaming, ect. They both have trouble accepting some kids aren’t into their interests and got in trouble last year for that, they also both got in trouble for homophobic and sexist comments, which we are still working on with Adrian, and it’s been a struggle.

Claire’s oldest son, Blaze, is a sweet kid, but he has a very rocky relationship with Adrian and Edwin, and he just normally watches baseball videos by himself when the family hangs out if he isn’t at practice or with his friends.

On Friday, my wife and I got a call from Adrian and Edwin’s teacher, telling us she was concerned about stuff the boys were saying, she said Edwin was saying Blaze was getting in trouble with the law and other concerning stuff about him, he also said his dad worked at Nintendo and said I worked for Tesla and that Adrian was going along with it and helping him elaborate on these stories. She was concerned as she had Blaze and remembered him as a sweet kid. I told her everything was made up and she then told me some other stories they were saying and it was just lie after lie.

I talked to Adrian about it after he got home and he told me his teacher was lying and continued to make excuses. I told my son that until he told the truth, he would lose video game access, but he insisted he was telling the truth.

My wife was at a party for work when he came home, so I waited for her to come home again to confront him, but when I talked to her she told me Claire was telling her what happened according to Edwin and both had a detailed story about the teacher not liking them and lying about them and it seemed to match up.

I then asked one of my coworker’s about this and told him to ask his son who’s also in the same class, his son told him Edwin and Adrian were “full of cr*p” and that the teacher was telling the truth.

After this, I took my son’s devices (and even let him save the game he was playing), but he started crying claiming I was being too hard on him and when I asked my wife and sister about this, they seemed to agree. I’m conflicted, I love Adrian and just want what’s best for him, and I’m worried that maybe I did go too far but Adrian and Edwin are sticking to their seemingly debunked stories.

AITA?