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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Grassgrenner on 2023-08-28 23:05:43.
I’m a trans man, but I felt like this post might be relevant to the experience of womanhood to some extent.
This is something I have been thinking about after learning more about abusers’ entitlement towards their victims and also on how some men are willing to date women whose beliefs do not align with this. Turns out I had experienced something that I honestly cannot stop thinking about.
I remember that one time I had met a guy at an university while I was trying pretty hard to pretend to be a cis girl. He used to talk about himself a lot, his beliefs, what he did, the stuff he liked… And then, at some point, he showed interest in marrying me and having children with me…
This guy, at no point, asked me if I was Christian like him (I was an atheist), if I wanted children (I did not) or even if I was into men at all. He just talked about himself as if I was going to fall in love with him after he showed how great of a man he was.
Then, there was another guy… I won’t give all the details, but he somehow fell in love with me. A feminist “woman” that he had previously screamed at because “she” acknowledged that sexism is a thing. This wasn’t even the only thing we disagreed on and he still confessed his feelings to me for some reason? He thought he had a chance with me? Why did he even want a chance with me?
Not gonna lie, the fact that I’m a trans man doesn’t make any of this make sense to me and I personally don’t even want it to. Is this a thing that women tend to experience a lot while dating? Do any of you even say “yes” to any of these cases?