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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Big-Context7906 on 2023-08-28 12:34:56.
My stepsister was grounded recently for going on a pretty vicious rant about how much she hates me and would rather be alone for the rest of her life than be stuck with me forever. This came after my dad and stepmom planned a Christmas vacation for the first time ever. They can only afford a two bedroom cabin so it would mean my stepsister and I sharing. I hated the idea too. But I knew my stepsister would explode over the idea so I sat back and allowed her to do the work and get into trouble because I knew it would push her over the edge.
She went a little bigger than I expected honestly. She brought up how my mom abandoned me and said I was unlovable and that I deserved to be walked out on. She also brought up how I destroyed her family because her mom’s parents didn’t want to include me and so my stepmom told them if they treated me differently to my stepsister then they wouldn’t see us anymore. She wished me dead and all kinds of other stuff too.
BG: We have been stepsisters since we were 8 and we have never liked each other. We both have issues. Her from her dad dying and me from being bullied in school. I know people would expect me to say my mom leaving but my grandma filled that maternal role so while it sucks my mom never wanted me. I have a mom figure in the most amazing grandma ever. But anyway. My stepsister and I don’t fight every day or yell at each other all the time. The dislike has always been there though. I can’t speak for her but she was always so angry and she was jealous that when her and her mom moved in with us, I got to keep my room and hers was a little smaller but not by much. I never liked how she treated me over that or how she’d tell her friends stuff about me. I don’t think either of us wanted to be forced more on each other or punished so the hatred was kept from my dad and her mom.
After my stepsister’s meltdown my dad and stepmom wanted to sit down and talk to me. They noticed right away I wasn’t upset or even shocked by the outburst. They said it was okay for me to be hurt by what my sister said. I told them I wasn’t. My dad asked to speak to me alone and he was like you know you can be honest kiddo. I told him I wasn’t upset about what she said. I told him I didn’t care. I said the dislike is entirely mutual though I would never wish those kinds of things on her. He was like but you two have been sisters for half your lives now and I was like we were never really sisters. More like enemies forced to live together. I said if I had cared it would hurt but I didn’t. My stepmom was upset because she listened in to what I said. She felt like I shouldn’t be so flippant about such a big deal. She also confessed that it hurt that I didn’t care at all about her daughter and we did not regard each other in any kind of familial way. She felt like even with that I should care because what my stepsister said hurt her and my dad.
AITA?