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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Witty_Wasabi2511 on 2023-08-28 05:05:11.
For some context me and my ex wife have been married for 10 years and divorced for 5. When we first got married I had a adopted kid(biologically my sisters son i raised him cause my sister suffers from partial paralysis from the waist down and in her right arm so she cant move around without assistance). So when me and my wife got married we were both 23 and each had 1 year old children. We decided not to adopt each others children because my ex wife would loose child support and I didn’t want to risk loosing custody of my son in case of a divorce.
We divorced 5 years ago and all the assets were split equally but just mainly a small 2 bedroom apartment. After the divorce I started my own company and got really lucky when the coronavirus hit as every major company allowing work from home allowed me to upscale my business rapidly. I now make very good money in the range of mid 7 figures a year. So I decided to set up a fund of around 400k $ that my son would be able to use for college and the remaining for whatever he wanted to do afterwards and a trust for my son so that he and his mom would be taken care of of if I died.
Recently my ex wife has heard about this and claims that i should be setting a up a college fund for her daughter cause I should apparently treat them both exactly the same even though I dont have legal custody of her and have gone almost 0 content with them both for the last 5 years although i was pretty close to her daughter when we were married.
Update: From the feedback I got from this post I realised that I didn’t want to be the kind of person that just does things cause they have too and since my step daughter was a massive part of my life im planning on setting up a educational trust she can use at 18 to just pay for college for about half of my sons when I get in touch with a lawyer.