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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/RushHopeful7164 on 2023-08-28 16:35:07.
I feel like women constantly make bad decisions and choices for their lives. My dear friend needed help to leave her controlling boyfriend and ex at one point so I was helping her with some friends. We were so excited planning about a local community college, getting on financial assistance, and helping her start to stand on her own two feet. We had a whole support system of friends who were going to let her crash with us as she started working on her own to make her own money for once. My dear friend really seemed to be taking a stand about how tired she was of her controlling ex running her life and only allowing her to leave his house with a relative watching her. He made her drop out of classes, controlled her movements, had cameras in his house, monitored her bank account, and we were all helping her get own phone, money, bank account, and even birth control. Things seemed to be looking up for all of us.
Then, she went back to him. All our hard work in helping her was reduced to that she missed her ex. She didn’t want to be poor and missed the nice things he would buy for her after he got mad at her. After that she stopped being our friends because we were a “bad influence” to her. I found out recently she married her controlling boyfriend. It’s so hard to feel responsible like I didn’t do enough, but I tried really hard to help her. It is so hard when she chose this and if there is any room for regret it is on her.