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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Main_Party121 on 2023-08-28 14:40:10.
I caught my boyfriend in a few lies this past year. He told me he had cut off contact with a girl from his past (his own choice, he felt she used him) when they were actually still texting on and off. I later learned through instagram they were at a party together while I was traveling. He told me about the party but purposely didn’t mention she was there, but then he showed up on her story, which he purposely didn’t repost because he didn’t want me to see it.
It also came out much later that at another gathering I wasn’t present for, she sat on his lap and tried to get flirty. He pushed her off and left, and the next day when he confronted her about it she claimed she was super drunk and didn’t remember what she did.
He was very publicly in love with this girl for several years before we met. He claims he’s totally over her now but something about it just always feels off to me. He defends his lies by saying he didn’t want me to get upset, that’s why he didn’t tell me about the lap sitting and that she was at the party.
What broke this camel’s back was when I went onto her social media. He’s commented about how hot she is on every single scantily clad picture up until the time we started dating. While he keeps reminding me those comments were made before we started dating, I just can’t get over how icky it is and how insecure it makes me feel about my own body. I don’t even want to have sex with him any more because I feel so ugly now, compared to her.
He’s apologized a lot once he realized how it made me feel, but I can’t shake the feeling that I just can’t trust him anymore. I tried to break up with him over it and he broke down. So now we’re just stuck. Help.