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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/exrah5342 on 2023-08-28 12:57:14.
I (F17) was approached by a man yesterday and I’m feeling super anxious about it.
Yesterday I decided to go on a walk and I ended up being pickpocketed and having my phone stolen. I only realised I didn’t have it after my airpods disconnected (while I was standing still), so I immediately understood that someone had just taken it and ran. Still, I searched for it like a maniac for 30 minutes. Nothing like this had ever happened before, so I didn’t really know what else to do + I’m super introverted, so asking anyone for help was off the table. I, defeated, in shock, and almost crying, then decided to just go home. That’s when a young man (who looked about my age, slightly older) approached me and asked me why I looked so sad. I, shy and flustered, told him I had lost my phone, to which he said he’ll help me look for it. I hate judging people based on their looks, but this guy didn’t seem like the most exceptionally well-behaved law abiding citizen (iykwim), so I was super hesitant and kept saying there’s no need, since it’s useless. Still, he persisted, so I ended up going with him (idk what else to do at that point).
An important piece of context is that I used to be super ugly and had never been approached by anyone before, so I didn’t think there way any way he had any weird intentions.
Anyways, so we walked together back to the bridge where I had gotten pickpocketed. That’s when he started to act a bit weird, asking me personal questions, touching me a bit, and persuading me to sit down with him and “chill”. I kept trying to awkwardly let him know that I really needed to either go look for my phone or go home asap and definitely did not have any extra time to spend with him. Still, up until this point, it was relatively normal I guess. Then, he asked me how old i am, so I told him I’m 17. He then told me that he’s 22, but that it’s fine since 17 and 22 isn’t that bad??? Like uh yes, it is??? Anyway, that’s when I finally understood that his intentions were actually not to help me find my phone, but rather to maybe get something out of me. Then he kept asking me to hug him and side hugging me, while I just stood there looking at him weird. In his defence, I didn’t necessarily shake him off of me, I just kinda didn’t react, because my brain was just not registering wtf was happening. I think I might’ve been in shock tbh. Anyways, he tried to get my socials, but fortunately I forgot my user, so I didn’t end up giving them to him. Regardless, after I came home and my mind cleared up, I couldn’t stop felling creeped out by him? Like, why is a full grown 22 yo man trying to get with an underage girl, especially when she’s in distress and not in the right state of mind?? Today, my parents were handling the lost phone situation, so they were obviously mad, but I just couldn’t stop thinking about him. He makes me genuinely anxious, since I met him near my school, so there’s a high possibility I might run into him sometime in the school year… I genuinely feel a bit nauseous when I think a\bout seeing him again. Am I overreacting (this is the 1st time anything like this has ever happened to me)??? Did I lead him on or something? I was just acting polite, definitely not flirtatious or anything. ;-;
somehow that whole experience was worse that actually losing my phone