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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/potatoshadow_724 on 2023-08-28 08:04:14.
Original Title: I found my ex-boyfriend’s reddit account. He has been lying about our break-up, saying vile things about me, and painting me as the villain to garner sympathy on multiple subreddits. I don’t know why I care, but I’m livid.
Basically, the title. I (26F) found my ex boyfriend’s (23M) reddit account. I didn’t go looking for it. Hell, I couldn’t even remember his username. I noticed I had one follower on my primary account and decided to investigate to see if I knew the person. Turns out it was my ex. We hadn’t been broken up for too long at that point, so his posts about us were recent and… plentiful. Normally, I wouldn’t care what an ex says about me, but it has really messed with my head.
His posts describe the events preceding our breakup and the fall out right after. He accused me of cheating, lying, and gaslighting him. In each post, he paints this pathetic picture of a man victimized by an evil, deceitful woman. Of course other redditors chimed in, calling me a slut (in response to the alleged “cheating”), worthless, a waste of space, and other things I wish I’d never read. My ex was a verbally abusive alcoholic who isolated me from my family, guilted me for pursuing opportunities to further my education and career, and destroyed my self-confidence. I used to sit in my car for hours after work because I dreaded walking into our apartment when he was home. I spent many a night crying in the bathroom with the door locked, pouring out vodka in the sink, and wondering how the hell I got there. I felt trapped.
In any other situation, I’d let it roll off my back. This person dealt so much damage to my mental health and I shouldn’t give him any more power over me. I am just so utterly fucking enraged that he has been bending the truth for karma to soothe his wounded ego.
I’m currently dating the kindest, most supportive partner I’ve ever had, a night-and-day difference from my relationship with my ex. He patiently chips away at all the trauma responses I’ve developed as a direct result of my ex’s abuse and neglect. Despite how happy I am in my current relationship, I’m so pissed that my ex is acting like the victim. I know it doesn’t matter and I hate that it bothers me. Has anyone else experienced anything similar? Is it normal to be this angry?