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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Resident-Choice-9566 on 2023-08-28 05:48:39.
CW: Assault
He choked me out to the point of losing consciousness because I pulled the plug on his xbox when he refused to discuss his cheating on me and kept playing, staring at the screen as I kept urging him to listen. After I came to, he was still playing. I ran outside terrified, drove to a place I could talk privately on the phone and called his brother in a panic. He told me to go to his mother and sister’s house.
They kept seeming to encourage me to leave him. Eventually I did. But before things ended, he read out a letter to me that his sister wrote to him, imploring him to not settle for someone like me, that he could do so much better. I had never felt so betrayed and insulted by another woman at that point. And I’m still impacted by that to this day. I struggle to trust that other women are safe. Just came up in my memories randomly and it has me swimming, realizing how many times I’ve been failed when I was abused.
Edit: A few people are giving her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she did this to sway him away from me for my sake. Based on her past behavior to me before this incident, I can confidently say this isn’t the case. And further on that, it would embolden him to continue to treat women that way and still isn’t excusable. If she was coddling him into thinking he deserved better than a person he beat, he’s only going to think that’s okay to physically assault someone vulnerable to his violence who can’t defend themselves. I won’t be charitable to that.