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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/galacticslut on 2023-08-25 20:36:14.
So some time ago an old friend reached out to me. We used to be friends as very young kids (5-7 yo) and then fell apart for years. He did reach out to me around 2014 but I was going through stuff and he was saying stuff that kept making me angry so I told him to not contact me.
Cue to some months ago, he reached out and I thought sure we can talk. He started sending me old photos of me as a kid (I have no idea where he got them from since we never shared photos with each other and we didn’t even have a single picture together. He had my school pictures of me and my class and such) saying weird shit like “you were so pretty then”. Then he kept wanting to meet up with me and I didn’t feel comfortable, on top of having very busy schedule since I was working full time and studying, but we set up a meeting date once and met in a public place for an hour.
Then after that for another months he kept constantly asking to meet up, saying that he wants to go with me to walk around our old neighbourhood. We couldn’t set up a date bc of my schedule and he was getting more and more pushy to meet up and kept getting irritated that I didn’t have time. He said that I probably hang out with my current friends daily (not true) and can find time for them but cannot do the same for him when he knows me longer. He might know me longer but I don’t consider him my friend anymore bc it’s been over 20 years and he’s basically a stranger.
Recently he messaged me again begging to meet and I just said fine whatever to sort of get him off my back. However something doesn’t feel right, like because a lot of things he said in our convos didn’t sit right with me I have a feeling hes got some stalker and creep vibes. The problem is I am an extreme people pleaser and not assertive at all and… how do I tell him I don’t see our “friendship” going anywhere when I meet him in a couple of days?