This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/JustAd9409 on 2023-08-25 15:45:35.

I (20f) and my mother (42f) haven’t always hated each other. When I was little, I was attached to her at the hip. It wasn’t until I was around 9 that things started to go downhill. She got on H and ice, and also became a heavy drinker. She would lock us in closets, make us (mainly me) dumpster dive so we wouldn’t starve (she sold her food stamps for drug money, plus sold my aderall) and took away our blankets and pillows for “misbehaving” (I was 9??). Shortly before my tenth birthday, she told us she was dropping us off at my dads early (he got us every other weekend). Usually, this wouldn’t be an issue. She would do this every now and then. So she drops us off at the front door and told us she would be back in a few days. We didn’t hear from her for two years. I remember searching the paper for an obituary, mugshot, anything I could find to tell me my mama was okay. Eventually, that hope turned to hatred. I finally decided I didn’t care anymore. Then came the day where we found her mugshot. She’d been arrested on three counts of armed robbery, as well as one count of possession with intent to sell. She was facing 15-20 in prison, but managed to weasel her way out of it. She showed up a couple weeks later with her boyfriend, high out of her mind. Stating the court ordered her to go to rehab and stay on probation for 10 years. As the years passed, she got clean. She apologized but the apologies mean nothing. In the time she has gotten clean, she has faked cancer three times, faked AN ENTIRE PREGNANCY, faked breaking her leg, stated she has everything under the sun. But still pretends to be this wonderful Christian woman. I met my husband two years ago, we have a beautiful one year old little boy, and a two story house. I’ve finally begun to heal and give my baby the life I didn’t have, the stable home and emotional support. I’ve completely cut my mom out of my life but she keeps finding ways to contact me. I’ve talked to my family and they say I’m TA for not giving her another chance. But I’ve told her she’ll never meet him, he won’t be at her funeral and neither will I. So, AITA?