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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No-Oven4862 on 2023-08-25 14:14:04.
I have been with my bf for 6 years, we’re nearing the engagement stage. Recently he told me that a few months ago he had asked my mom for her permission to marry me, and her response was… lackluste. Apparently she avoided the subject and said “we’re going to have to talk about it later.” This left my boyfriend pretty anxious and confused as he had presumed everything would go okay.
Without hesitation, I called my mom this week and had an honest conversation about the whole thing, as asked if she had any problems with my bf. She didn’t, said she was happy for us and we cleared the air. She did admit that she had told my bf I wasn’t keen on a wedding (true) and he may have misinterpreted that as not wanting marriage.
After I spoke to her, I called my bf to tell him the good news and he went nuts at me. He was so angry, saying I had violated his trust and should have never spoken to her. He said this is “the worst thing I have ever done” and that he doesn’t think he can get over this. I honestly never thought I was doing anything wrong, and wouldn’t have if I knew it was an issue. I don’t know why my bf would have told me about the conversation if he didn’t want me to confront my mom… was I meant to know that and do nothing? Im so confused!