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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/bigsalad420 on 2023-08-25 15:02:05.

When we met 10 years ago I had long curly hair, and after a few months I chopped it off for a long bob, and a little after that I opted for a pixie. My husband (then bf) said he loved my long hair and the pixie, that I looked like a fairy.

I grew it out for our wedding, and maintained long hair until after the birth of our second child in 2020. I had been losing hair (PP hair loss) and our newborn was ripping out my baby hairs on the bottom of my neck. Since we were in lockdown I decided to shave my head because I’ve always wanted to and never had the courage to, and if I looked insane nobody would be seeing it.

I walked out of the bathroom with a full shaved head and to my surprise, I absolutely loved it. I enjoyed not having to style my hair at all, my delightfully round head, and it made my face really pop. My husband was supportive but always finished with, “I can’t wait until your hair is long again”.

I shaved my head twice more since then because I really love having shorter hair. Since my hair has started growing out again my curls have returned. It’s so curly and I love it (still v short, nearly a pixie). With it being curly I’ve asked that he not run his finger through my hair as it causes it to lose it’s styling and makes the curl look frizzy and unkempt.

This morning he aggressively ran his finger through my hair, and I did as I have don’t many times before. I gently move his hand away from my head and remind him, “it ruins my curls”. He was instantly grumpy with me and has been gruff since.

This seems unfair because I’m letting it grow out for him, but if I’m the one having to style it so it looks good I don’t want him messing it up.

So, AITA for asking him to not touch my hair?