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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AskPristine3794 on 2023-08-25 10:08:06.
Just recentIy I (22F) went to my graduatiom ceremony with my little sister (12) older brother (28) and my mum.
For context, my brother has been struggling to complete his 3 year degree with multiple failures and a short suspension to the point that he graduated 9 years later in the same year as me. In order to complete his final course that he failed multiple times at the university he goes to, he applied to complete it at my uni which is considered to be a prestigious university in my country. This was okay with me and actually fun at times to talk crap and share trauma. He also passed his ceremony date due to the late finish of my universitys semester in comparison to his where if he had finished his semester then he would have been able to make it to his graduation ceremony. Hence, the next time he would have been able to make his graduation at his university would have been next year.
However, on the graduation day, while we took many photos of me with my gown and grad hat as well as a family the part that frustrated and hurt my feelings is when I was stripped of my gown and grad hat on my graduation day by my mother in order for him to take photos and pose infront of the logo of my university since he kind of “went there”. By the time they finished, we had to return the gowns and go home. I feel like my graduation was taken over by him and the attention was diverted to him when it was my graduation day. It was also very awkward for me to share the gown with him around people that saw me wear it and quite embarassing. The part that also further annoys me is that i KNOW he knows why I am bothered but instead is gaslighting me by making me out to be selfish by being mad about it. AITA for being angry about this?
TLDR: My brother has been struggling to complete uni and ended up staying there for 9 years, he decided to finish his last course at my uni and once it was my graduation ceremony he acted as if it was HIS ceremony, he directed the attention off of me and made it about him because he ‘went there’