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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NotCreatedByAI on 2023-08-25 15:00:18.
Hey Reddit,
I (M, 32) have been dating a fantastic woman for a few months who has multiple children from a previous relationship. While our relationship is blossoming, we’ve hit a financial snag that’s causing tension.
For context, I earn six figures, while she earns significantly less. I’ve always held a belief in splitting mutual expenses 50/50, even if there’s an income disparity. However, I’ve been staunch in my stance that I shouldn’t contribute to her children’s expenses because we’re still in the early stages of our relationship.
Here’s a recent example: We all went to McDonald’s for a quick bite. I covered my meal, and she had to pay for herself and all of her kids. She looked a bit embarrassed when one of her kids asked for an additional item and she hesitated, counting her money. While I did offer to buy the extra item, I didn’t pitch in for the rest of their meals. She later told me that she felt I could’ve been more generous given our income differences, especially in front of her children.
I understand where she’s coming from, but I believe in personal responsibility. My upbringing taught me the value of money, and I feel that her children’s expenses are her responsibility.
So, AITA for sticking to my principles and not helping out financially for her kids during our outings?
Edit: McDonald’s was the children’s idea. The McDonald’s meals were nearly $50 just for the children. We’ve been together for 2ish months.
Edit: I like the girl and I like her kids. They are cool children. To those asking if I want to marry the girl or see a long future with her. How the fuck should I know? We’ve only been seeing each other for 2 months.
Edit3: As some of the comments have mentioned calling me the AH I will be breaking up with her because she is not in the position of supporting her own children.