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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/CraftySappho on 2023-08-25 14:21:34.
Hi all
Ummmmm trigger warning if you aren’t into hearing about my low-rent teardown shack of a uterus that doctors in Canada treat like a two bedroom bungalow on a quarter acre corner lot in a good school district a man can start a family in
You may know me from such sagas as “my doctor fired me because he is a misogynistic prick” and “I’ve been trying to get treatment for endometriosis for twenty years”.
I had an obgyn appointment earlier this week and, again, it was another massive waste of time - I call these appointments “origin story movies” because really all we ever talk about is how, if, when, the spider bit me, and how I deal with my new powers but we don’t talk about the long term effects of being a superhero, you know?
I did get a “maybe it’s not endo, it might be something else” and “how can you tell you’re passing blood from your bowels? How do you know it’s not coming from your vagina?”
Excuse my French but FUCK OFF LADY there’s PERIOD BLOOD coming from my ASS NOW and I have been piloting this scrap heap vessel for almost 40 years so I know which hole is doing what but thanks I guess.
“Oh but the surgery can cause more pain”
Ok thanks but I’ll take anything other than this torture every month. I’m trashing my liver and stomach with OTC painkillers (cause you know, if I ask for anything else I’m a drug seeker) and I am living half a life.
I spend 3 weeks on my period each month - 2 weeks of PMS and a week or so of bleeding. One or two of the bleeding days is so painful that I sob, and rock back and forth. Sometimes I even get a PMS couple of days where the pain is so bad in my joints I can barely move. Some “months” I have a three week cycle. Some months I bleed for ten entire days.
And yes I’ve tried green tea and raspberry leaf tea, yoga, ice plunges and ocean swimming, hot baths, magnesium baths, float tanks, meditation, orgasms, getting pregnant, hypnotherapy, psychiatry, psychology, therapy, journalling, hormonal birth control, more hormonal birth control, the cup, exercise, no exercise, diet changes, supplements, anxiety drugs, antidepressants, the mini pill, cognitive behavioral therapy, prescription opiates, illicit opiates, hot water bottles, gentle movement, intense movement, sex, different hormonal birth control, HBC with bleeding breaks, continuous HBC, spironolactone, TENS machines… You name it, I’ve tried it. I promise.
I cannot do an IUD cause fibroids.
But I have, legitimately and purposefully tried or explored everything I’ve been suggested.
Another point I tried to make is, I don’t even identify as a woman (genderqueer/agender). Having a uterus control me makes me incredibly dysphoric and reminds me I’m not in the right body.
Anyways
I have saved up quite a few airline points. I have a little bit of cash and I’m going to set up a gofund me for a bit of help, and the rest will go on my credit card - I’m choosing between Turkey, India, and Mexico for a hysterectomy.
This is the state of reproductive care in Canada. I’m not a unique case. There’s so many of us out here suffering.