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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/indianpancake07 on 2023-08-25 13:34:49.
I was seeing this guy for a while and we eventually broke it off and decided to remain friends. I was feeling horrible the entire time, tried to date others, changed my routine and slowly came out of a shell. He started dating someone and I thought he was happy and decided to limit contact and slowly remove myself.
Recently, he and I had been talking a lot and he may have come over to my place and well, things happened. This made me question a lot about my feelings. He did say he wasn’t seeing the other girl, but was planning on seeing her again once she’s back to the city we are in and honestly that broke me a little. I felt like I was lying to myself about what I want and decided to cut him off.
He then proceeded to say that I’m “great to talk to” and that “his roommates think that we are destined to be married” (possibly as a joke but the timing felt weird to me) and I was like… What is this? What is he attempting to do? He wanted me in his life while he dates other people and when nothing works out he can settle with me? I don’t know.
Yesterday I finally told him I don’t want to be in contact with him and he said he respects that but oh man! All my people pleasing tendencies are surfacing and I hate hurting someone intentionally like this so it’s very hard for me to not go back and take back everything I said.
I know I know. That’s why I’m here. Give me advice, the slap in the face I need, or recommend strategies that worked for you guys.