I'm frustrated and sad

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• LarrySwinger@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Hello Alice. I see two related but distinct things going on here: low mental health and lack of productivity. The former is a matter of building and maintaining good habits. It helps to spend time offline, for example by going on a stroll every morning. As for productivity, you are more likely to follow through on your plans if you write down your goals with pen and paper. There are systems that help you with this. I recommend the Bullet Journal method. You can also practice your ability to concentrate by reading a book or meditating. I recommend you do all of these three things (stroll, planning, reading) at the start of your day.

  It’s very human to long for social interaction, and ideally you have it every day, but social media is designed to keep you addicted by making your brain release dopamine upon each interaction. Here’s a video about it. Maybe keep it to just a few chatroom where you check in with people. I’m thinking about starting an accountability group. Are you interested?

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  • Sexypink@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thank you so much. And you are very right. I do have low mental health and productivity.

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    • LarrySwinger@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I didn’t mean mental health in a clinical sense, by the way, but in a more general sense. Both struggles are normal. Best of luck with things.

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• Scruffy_Nerfherder@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Well, you’ve inspired a lot of people to stop and try and reach out to you. You need real people in your life.

  Trust me, I know that families can suck, but they are the first place we go when we are in trouble. Where is your family?

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  • Sexypink@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thank you. They live in another state

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• logen@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Use a laptop? At least then it’s more comfortable.

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  • ihatetroons@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    can fuck up your spine on any of them. i see people mess up their neck especially on phone/tablet, laptop, and desktop

    wish i had known what ‘ergonomics’ was before i spent my career on a computer messing mine up

    but yeah, i like bigger screens too 😉

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    • logen@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      nreal (xreal now, I guess) airs and friends. Tis the way to go. Doesn’t matter where I look. Tech is still young, but it’s basically what I’ve wanted since I looked in a sky mall magazine all those years ago and saw TV’s in this ugly head band goggle thing. Actually, I think they looked slightly like Apples atrocious headgear.

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• Owner_of_donky@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU

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  • Sexypink@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thank you

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• delendum@lemdit.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It will get better, take it from a stranger on the internet.

  Start with the little things: www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBAqF00gBGk

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  • ihatetroons@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    thanks, not sure about Alice but you encouraged me to get off my ass and make my bed, even if it wasn’t the first thing

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  • Sexypink@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thank you

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• ihatetroons@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  yeah, totally get this. replace ‘phone’ with ‘computer’ and ‘sad’ with ‘bored’ and you could be talking about me too.

  some advice i got secondhand from a fren’s therapist was to try to do at least one thing different from your normal routine everyday just to break established patterns. friend had been going thru depression when he got the advice but i tihnk its good regardless. i just need to kick myself in the ass and actually follow it lol

  i listened to one of the jordan peterson audiobooks last year and it had some similar stuff in there. i think one of the examples was if you had let your paperwork pile up and were overwhelmed by the task, then start off with 1 or 2, just do some small piece and force yourself to come back to it and keep doing small pieces. probably can be adapted to a lot of stuff but my brain is shutting down for the day and can’t really think

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  • logen@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    “Try to do something different” This is strong advice, however, I’d change to it “Go do something”

    Doesn’t matter what it is, doesn’t have to be new, you just need to do.

    Have a thought? Go do it instead of convincing yourself not to do it.

    Super simple, yet still hard to do when… well… life is what it is.

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    • ihatetroons@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      excellent point. it probably was closer to this originally based on how my freend described it

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    • LarrySwinger@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Obligatory.

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  • Sexypink@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Thank you man, it means alot. I have two cats. I’ve had dogs before and you are right about that. Having them forces you to get up out of bed bc you have to take care of them.

    I see how it helps. Even though I don’t have to walk my cats, even though they have food and water, they’ll cry for me to get out of bed when I’m sleeping all day.

    They knudge me and won’t shut up lol until I get up and at least open the curtains and turn the TV on.

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• squashkin@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  yeah I was sick this week and felt like I wanted to prioritize more other things over forums

  I learn a lot from forums and have good convos so idk about cutting them out totally, cold turkey

  but I have also lived without internet and I am wondering about more of life like that

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• saticat@exploding-heads.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  YOU CAN DOOO EEEET!!!

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