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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Alert_Net4855 on 2023-08-24 17:11:28.
I bought a home at the beginning of the year. A very straight forward transaction with no issues. By spring time, I decided to change up the layout of the yard and removed some flower beds.
Beginning of June: I get a phone call from the person who used to live in my house. She explains that her husband had died and she spread his ashes in his favorite garden. She asks if she could stop by to visit the flower bed where her husband’s ashes were.
Long story short, she’s upset and furious because I tore apart the yard (my yard now) and her husband’s flower bed and ashes are gone. How was I supposed to know?
If she told me about her husband when i first bought the house, I would have definitely respected her visiting her husband. I may have even kept that flower bed just for her. But unfortunately, nobody told me a damn thing and now I have to live with the fact I caused such a shock to a person’s life.
Am I the asshole for this? Nobody said a word to me about this before I bought the house and nobody said a thing during the first 5 months of ownership. All I did was try to improve my yard, not knowing it has terrible consequences.
I feel like an asshole. I can’t imagine her pain but she didn’t say anything to me, the realtor or anyone about her husband’s remains. All I did was buy a house and change the landscape like people do when they buy property.