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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/CappuChibi on 2023-08-24 08:44:27.

This post is inspired by a comment I just left on someone’s post.

When I got with my current partner, he needed to explain to me that not cumming didn’t hurt. I believed this at 21 because three men that came before told me that it did hurt.

At 16 I met a guy (16) that took it upon himself to “teach” me how to masturbate even though I said no because I was on my period. He persuaded me to do it because he was horny and if I didn’t do anything about it, it would start hurting.

When I was 17 I met a guy (27) online who was my “friend” for 6 months before I asked him to be my boyfriend. He’d message me during the night and ask me if I love him. When we got together, he asked to masturbate with me multiple times, and said that if I didn’t, he’d get blue balls and it would hurt.

When I was 18, I started dating a guy (20) that tried to get with me while in a relationship with someone else. He told me he was gonna break up with her, but delayed it a bit because he “didn’t want to hurt her”. He’d ask for sex multiple times a day, I already believed it’d hurt if I didn’t and he went along with it once he heard me say it.

When my current partner and I got together, he could go a couple of days without sex. I’d ask him if he was mad at me at least 20 times. When I asked if he wasn’t hurting, he looked at me like I was an alien.

It took a while to unlearn.

Only recently I’ve understood how fucked up all of it was.