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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Grand_Librarian4876 on 2023-08-24 01:11:27.
My girlfriend and I live together. She wakes up at 6am to get to work at 7am. Every morning, her alarm starts going off at 5am and she hits snooze over and over before she finally crawls out of bed at 6am to be in the bathroom getting ready for 45 minutes before she leaves. I work from home and don’t need to wake up until about 8:30am. I enjoy sleeping in until then.
It fucking maddens me that her alarm goes off constantly from 5am-6am and destroys my sleep and my morning. I’ve brought this up with her and she’s defended the habit and refused to quit because (1) she says it’s the only way she can get up in the morning, and (2) she has to drive to work for a job that starts much earlier than mine, and I work from home, so I should be accommodating to her and empathetic that she has to wake up so early and drive. After months of this I told her that the next time her snooze went off, I’d turn off her alarm on her phone.
This morning, I did that at 5am and reached over and just turned off the alarm on her phone after she hit snooze the first time. She slept through to about 6:40am, woke up, freaked out, and ended up about 10 minutes late to work. She is furious at me. But I insist I am right and I will do the same thing tomorrow. She needs to just set her alarm for 6am when she actually gets up and forget that the “snooze” feature exists.
faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 10 months ago
ETH. YTA because if you cancelled snooze on her behalf, it’s your responsibility now to make sure she gets up. You can’t just cancel snooze and go to sleep. She is an Asshole for not caring about your sleep. If you’ve had a very serious conversation about what her habits do to your sleep and she is still refusing to change, she is a mega asshole. You’d be okay if you leave her, but staying with her and cancelling her snooze is also asshole move. Remember asshole doesn’t cancel another asshole. It just adds more capacity to produce shit. You should get her app like alarmy, it’ll not allow snooze until a task is done for example taken a photo of the sink. It works for a lot of people because once you’re at the sink, easier to just brush your teeth and go about your day.
faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 10 months ago
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