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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Correct-Doctor-443 on 2023-08-23 20:23:44.

I (24 F) was with ny ex (27M) for 5 years when I broke up with him for the said reason. He touched me in my sleep many many many times without my permission. I didn’t like it the first time! I conveyed the same to him via text, he left my text on seen. Other than that he was a good bf, we were good together. Post that he did it again and again even after I told him every time that I was not okay with it. He never apologized or talked to me about it. 3 years later I broke up with him in 2020. I started meeting him again (casually) in 2023. Don’t judge me but he was the first guy I ever loved. And I truly believed that no one would love me as much as he did. So, after few months of meeting him again he suggested we should go for a night out, stay at a hotel and chill. I agreed because I do this with my friends and it was not a new thing for me. That night he did it again. tbh I was not shocked just disappointed in myself.

Since then the question of ‘why’ has been bugging me. I always believed that he loves me truly and he would never do something to hurt me intentionally. But he did it over and over.

So, today I met him and I asked him why did he do it again even when he knew I was not okay with it and we broke up for the same reason. He aaid his intentions were different, he did it out of love. Obv I called him out on it akd told him he never really loved me it was just lust. I wished him well before saying goodbye he kept crying the whole time asnd asked me for another chance. He never apologized unless I mentioned it to him that us reconnecting in 2023 was his second chance and today was his third chance, but he proved me wrong both the times as he never even apologized for his actions. Please tell me am I overreacting? Am I wrong in any way for breaking uo with him? Have I done something else? Is it my fault that I landed in this situation? (because when we got together I was 15 and I told him that I won’t have sex till I turn 18… is it because I deprived him of sex that he did this?)