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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Straight_Mongoose_51 on 2023-08-23 18:17:54.
This started as a comment on another post but I realized I was getting way off topic so I decided to make this it’s own post.
A few years ago I talked to my gyno about alternative birth control options because I hated being on the pill. I prefaced that under no circumstances did I want an iud but I knew there were other options that didn’t involve me having to do something every day (executive dysfunction is real). He tried to pressure me into getting an iud, and when I tried to ask him about any other method I had looked up he would just list the worst possible side effects and bring the conversation back to iuds. I eventually just said I would think about it so I could get out of that conversation. This was in Texas and he was a man.
Now I live in Colorado and I see a midwife who is so kind and empathetic it makes me want to cry when I think about how cold and even mean sometimes my gyno was now that I know it didnt have to be that way. She was shocked when I told her about that experience and said I didn’t deserve to be treated that way. I actually did cry when she said that because I hadn’t fully processed that I’d been mistreated until that moment. Now I’m on the depo shot and it works for me so perfectly, I only have to get it once every 3 months and the worst thing about it is sometimes my arm is a little sore afterward. It even stopped my periods.
Anyway like the title says the way women are treated in the American healthcare system is a fucking joke and I’m now very wary of male doctors and avoid them whenever possible. If you’re a woman or female presenting I apologize for the way you’ve likely been treated and encourage you to seek out female doctors and care providers whenever possible.