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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/whizardbee on 2023-08-23 16:23:22.
I currently work at a job where it is the first time in my life I haven’t been sexually harassed by anyone. I’m in my mid 30s and have worked since I was 15/16. To sum up some of my experiences I’ve been berated for not giving a manager a nj in front of coworkers , had my hair ruffled and too long touches, people indicating repeatedly they’d like to sleep with me, had a coworker push me on a bed and lay on top of me with my female boss in the room who said nothing, been picked up and spanked, and so many more little daily glances, comments etc. To me, this has always been low level not that big a deal, this is just what happens if you want to work. Even as I type this I’m thinking, why am I even venting this isn’t a big deal.
I am not meek. I stand up for other women, I have left jobs witnessing retaliation after someone else reported.
I shared all of this with a coworker and she told me she had never been sexually harassed at work in her life. (She has had unfair treatment, shitty bosses etc, but nothing like I described). This absolutely blew my mind. I’ve been in my new role for about a year and work with mostly women and keep talking to friends about how lucky I am that I haven’t been harassed. It literally didn’t occur to me that women don’t have the same experience as me.
I’m angry at myself and all these men, and some women, but mostly sad.
I guess I’m interested in other people’s experiences and thoughts on it because I thought I was pet being surprised by this kind of shit.