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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Hot-Friend-8448 on 2023-08-23 10:52:57.
I (35M) decided to buy my girlfriend (29F) a very beautiful expensive dress. She was eyeing that dress from the moment we got to the mall but when I asked if she wanted it she said no.
Don’t get me wrong I love women especially my girlfriend but I sometimes really don’t understand them. Their eyes say they want it but then their mouths say no? Like make your mind up.
Anyway we went around the mall to buy a few more things for our new house but before we left we passed by the store with the dress and I once again asked if she wanted it. She of course said no and so I explained to her that if she doesn’t want it then don’t look at it. She then told me that she did in fact want it but she definitely couldn’t afford it. I love spoiling my girlfriend, I make a good amount of money so I always take her out on dates and but her jewellery but now I didn’t understand why she didn’t want me to but her that dress.
I told her to go try it on and I will pay for it, I told her that I will not take no for an answer. She agreed finally but said that she would pay for it saying that it probably wouldn’t even be that expensive. She tried it on and when I tell you guys that I felt like that guy in the movie where they see that girl walking down the stairs in a beautiful dress, I felt exactly like that. She got changed out of it and went to the counter however the lady at the counter told us that it will be around $3,000 my girlfriend said that she didn’t actually want it but I just paid for it. She got mad and started calling me an asshole and that because of me everyone will start to think that she is just a gold digger, she also told me that she can never be independent when she’s around me.
So AITA? for buying my girlfriend a dress after she said that she didn’t want it?
Edit: Hi I just want to put it out there that a lot of you seem to think that I am asshole and I understand why you guys think that however I didn’t mention that she loved it when I spoiled her with jewels or dinner. So I couldn’t seem to understand as to why she went off on me like that in front of several other people for buying her a dress that I think looked good on her. We did have a talk about the situation and we both apologise she then revealed to me that she just felt embarrassed as she couldn’t pay for the dress. I told her that I don’t mind paying for everything that she needs after all I want to one day make her my wife and live a happy and long life with her by my side, I have also told her that the next time she says no I won’t push it.
Another edit: I would like to also add that my girlfriend does in fact love the dress. I took her for a dinner to a nice restaurant and she wore it showing it off to her friends. So yes she does make use of the dress and no she is not afraid of running it since there is something called a washing machine that she has access to. I just wanted to point this out.