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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/crocssocksandfox on 2023-08-23 08:51:23.
I am so exhausted.
My boyfriend and I are both first responders. I constantly have to hear about how tired he is. I work twice as many hours as him in a week. I make dinner, i take care of him and he does not reciprocate.
We both got sick, I am at work doing a 24 hour shift. He worked a 12. All I heard was about how terrible he feels, how bad his fever is. I am running the same temp, running more calls and he didn’t check in on me.
This weekend he was overtly flirting with an other female and ignoring me. I got upset and did want to talk to him because I wouldn’t act like an adult and I told him it’s not an excuse. I did so much this weekend for him while he did nothing.
We went on a trip after I worked over 80 hours this week and he still felt like I owed him my time to get us ready.
My partner today is a male. I have cleaned everything. He lost his radio, HUGE NO NO. Did not feel like he needs to search for it and kept taking my radio.
We have a very critical transport, involving a live heart getting flown out and was not paying attention to anything. Kept criticizing me and not believing me when I paid attention to the details.
This is also the same partner who refused to talk to me because I told him I don’t date coworkers.
I just feel like I do so much for men and get nothing in return.
Thanks for listening to my rant. I am exhausted and angry.
Edit: I would like to add this is not a generalization of all men, however it is a common theme I see. Especially men in the first responder world.