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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SophisticatedMind_ on 2023-08-22 21:18:16.

I’m just gonna provide as much context as possible. I’m 16F, My mom 33F and her boyfriend 50M.

I don’t like her boyfriend, He sucks and treats her bad. Two summers ago we were living with him and he threatened to kick us out because my mom found out he cheated. He has raised a hand to my mother and He talks to her like a child.

My mom is a single mom of 3. None of us are his children, Obviously she had me young so she was always keen on finding me a “father figure” as my dad was 24 sleeping with a 16 year old, and once he found out he didn’t take responsibility.

I believe that’s all that should be needed.

Some incidents according to my mom that makes me TA.

He doesn’t have a car so my mom drives 30 min to and from work for him. One time I drove with her and didn’t greet him because I do NOT like him. He didn’t say anything to me as well, So my mom whispered to me “Why didn’t you say hey to (his name)?”.

Another Incident, Once he kicked us all out my and begged us to come back in because he “shouldn’t have involved us” Even though my siblings and I didn’t want to go back in. He “apologized” my mother made my siblings accept and got mad when I said “I don’t know if I accept your apology”.

He often tries to enforce his “parental control” on my younger siblings and tries to punish them. Especially my younger brother and when I try to bring it up with my mom she claims “I would never let anyone put hands on my children”.

He has told my mother before, “Your lucky I didn’t cheat on you, I usually cheat”. Several times with us around.

My mom tries often for us to “get along” because he has no children. But I don’t care, He also always seems awkward around me, and avoids eye contact when we do speak.

So reddit AITA for not accepting my moms boyfriend as a “father figure”?

TLDR: My moms boyfriend genuinely sucks, I hate him. He tries hard to get me to like him, after a incident he caused. but I will never, my mom feels like I should let it go.