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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/New_Philosopher_2366 on 2023-08-22 18:45:49.
Granted I broke up with my ex 3 years ago,
Recently I noticed increased views on one of my social media stories, I don’t know if its a glitch but before I was able to see if someone who didn’t follow me viewed my stories but recently I’m unable to. Well I posted photos of myself in a wedding dress, here comes a message for this random account saying “karma”. Immediately blocked and moved on with my day, then another account messages me saying that it’s unfair that I’m able to move on with my life when I traumatized this person deeply. Now, a quick summary of why me and this ex broke up was because he was emotionally and physically abusive to me and constantly cheated on me. But back to the story I’ll block him again but then he creates now a third account to message me again, saying how it’s so unfair that I’m able to move on and be happy, etc. Didn’t respond just block him again, well, I guess he did some sleuthing and found out who my fiancé is, and decided to harass him on social media, telling him all these lies about me on how I was bad and how I treated him badly yada yada yada was just a whole mess.
It’s just crazy to me that two days after me and my ex broke up three years ago he already had a girlfriend and he’s still with this girl, but he’s so worried and concerned about what I’m doing in my personal life. That he felt the need to reach out to me and my current partner trying to make me out to be this terrible bad person. It’s just quite irritating that he’s able to move on, and do whatever he wants but once he sees that I am moving on and doing what I want he thinks that’s just an open invitation to try to ruin what I have going on. Quite honestly, I don’t understand why some people do this. It makes absolutely no sense so it was all fine and dandy when he was doing his thing but now that I’m doing my thing it’s an issue and he feels the need to ruin it. He also said to my partner that I need to apologize to him for all my wrongdoings, which I will admit, I did not handle certain situations well. How could I? I was being mentally and physically abused anyone in that situation wouldn’t react calmly and patiently like my ex said I should have. It’s crazy to me. He’s now throwing the word around that I traumatized him by my reaction to him mentally and physically abusing me. Back then when I was being mentally and physically abused, I was doing a lot of apologizing at the time because I did feel I was at fault for his behavior and “setting him off” as most abused people do. But through therapy I learned I’m not at fault for his behaviors, or how I reacted to those behaviors it was a stressful/traumatic situation.But like I said I did apologize to my ex on several occasions in the past, so its obvious an “apology” is not what he wants.
But of course, my current partner knows all about my ex and just blocked him but it’s quite hysterical that I can’t move on with my life but he can. He’s still creating fake accounts reaching out, I do have a VPO against him but the police don’t do anything when he violates it because they can’t “prove” its him, even though he relates back to our relationship in these messages. I don’t need any advice regarding the VPO, because my county doesn’t take them seriously.