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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Wild_Statistician837 on 2023-08-22 14:27:53.
I (22F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for about 9 months now. I am Asian and grew up in my home country pretty much all my life until I was 19 and went abroad to a European country to study. My boyfriend is from this country I’m currently studying in.
He has shown interest in my background a bit and I honestly like talking to him about it. I never questioned anything about our relationship until last night when we went to a bar with some of his friends. One of his friends asked if my bf was trying to learn my native language and we told him no. My bf went on to joke about how my language sounded too rough and weird from him to even try. I gave him a confused look and he said that he would’ve if it were more like Japanese or Korean.
I was completely silent after that and made up some excuse and left. It wasn’t subtle at all but I didn’t care at the time and felt like crying. He’s been blowing up my phone with messages and calls and all the messages say is that I overreacted and embarrassed him in public. I haven’t replied or picked up any of his calls.
I am in no way saying that he must learn my native language but the way he explained it hurt me. Now I’m wondering if I really did overreact and am looking too deep into it so AITA for doing that?