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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/flipflop9990 on 2023-08-22 02:47:02.
On a throw away acct:
So me and my wife had an argument about where I’m making extra money from. I am a self taught and amateur 3D artist recently to make extra money I have been making custom/commissioned images of people’s favorite video game characters and anime characters and so on. (I won’t give my page name or artist name for anonymity)
The work I do is not porn per sé but it is lewd (Topless, g strings, Kinky costumes,suggestive poses, no genitals, ECT) I’ve never hidden the fact that I made these things type of images but I’ve never told anyone explicitly. My wife knows I picked up the 3d rendering hobby and I’ve showed her a lot of my non lewd work that I also upload to an Instagram acct she follows. I think the most nudey thing I’ve uploaded there is a PG-13 bikini and beach scene.
So yesterday my wife was using my computer for something and I had left a render processing of a character in a revealing maid outfit laying on the floor and she flipped. She confronted me for making disgusting pornography.and that I was creepy for getting off on my own pornography. I tried to explain to her that it’s not porn and that it’s not for my personal use that people where paying me to make it That made her more upset and equated it to sex work. I also told her that thanks to these renders we’ve been able to take 2 trips in the last year and actually stop living paycheck to paycheck.
She wouldn’t have it and added on that it was degrading to women and she didn’t feel safe with me anymore unless I stopped.
I feel like I fucked up majorly and honestly I don’t know why I didn’t tell her, the money was good so I just kept getting new commissions. I also didn’t know she had such a negative view on porn since it had never come up before.
AITA?