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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/143-but-never-again on 2023-08-21 19:38:17.
I (37 female) have been with my husband (36male) for over 5 years. We recently married in July. Hasn’t been a month yet. I am 7 months pregnant with our first child together. We are a blended family of 6. He has 3 kids, 2 of whom lives with us.
My husband sister(30 female) and her two kids (9f&5M) recently moved in with us. To begin, my husband never asked me if I was ok with her moving in. I found out through conversation with her. I can’t tell you exactly why she’s here but I’m sure it’s because she’s a single mother and struggles. Our household was not the only or even best option. Their parents have a house with PLENTY of room.
Now my issues! I tried discussing with my husband the living arrangements prior to her moving in. Our 3 kids all have their own bedroom. His sister is occupying our extra master bedroom. So she has plenty of space. My husband told our kids Saturday morning to pack their rooms up because everyone rooms would be changing. Our girls (15&12)would be moving into our teen son (16)room together, it’s the biggest of the 3 and our son would be getting the 2nd biggest room while his niece and nephew get the smallest room. This is a decision that was NEVER discussed with me. Our girls agreed to let the 9yr sleep with them on a weekly bassy while the 5 year old remains in the room with his mom. My husband said no. I suggested that his niece could stay in the room with my daughter and my daughter advised she’s ok with that she just doesn’t want to loose her room. He denied that request. He stated that his niece and nephew shouldn’t be uncomfortable while living here. I feel completely uncomfortable and disrespected in HIS home.
I packed my daughter room and she is now sleeping on the couch. I told him I would be moving because he is making decisions for our household as if it’s just his. He responded I’m overreacting! I am in the process of moving out. AITA because I don’t think my kids should have to give their rooms up?