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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/missdillydally on 2023-08-21 16:16:44.
Saw the post about being childless, and it reminded me of a convo I had with my former teacher today.
We were having coffee, and I was telling him about my experiences dating and how I decided that at this stage of life, dating was not for me and I’d rather prioritise my career for now. He mentioned how one of his sister in laws was still single, and when I looked interested, he elaborated further.
‘Oh, she’s 37 now, still single. All of us in the family think it’s…well (at this point my eyebrows were slightly raised, so I think he paused), somewhat of a tragedy, to be very honest. She’d make a great mother and all, but at this point she’s probably not going to get married or have kids. How terribly sad.’
Look, I do think the part about childbirth is somewhat relevant (health risks and all), but I was a bit annoyed about how he said not being a mother was a tragedy. He also looked skeptical when I said I really didn’t want kids for now, and said I’d change my mind. Otherwise, not a bad guy, but why does having kids always seems to be the default nowadays? You don’t see people saying ‘Oh, you’ll change your mind’ when people say they want a family and kids.