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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Low-Produce-9949 on 2023-08-13 01:53:50.
The main thrust of this post is, I am allergic to nuts and my girlfriends bodywash contains almond oil. It isn’t life threatening for me to come in contact with it but it does cause hives. I asked my girlfriend (Jess) to change the body wash she uses as I am getting hives from residue of her body wash in the shower.
Jess was initially fine with it after a small back and forth but has since spoken to friends and believes that I am being too controlling, as do her friends. My friends are mostly neutral with a couple saying that I need to “nut up” and let her use whatever she wants.
A little bit of added context is that we recently decided we wanted to move in together and decided to do a “trial run” as Jess still lives with her parents and I rent my own place. So it’s easy enough for her to move in with me for a few months to see if living together full time works for us.
It’s never been a problem before now as I’ve never had a reaction from touching Jess after she uses it, but I am having a reaction from the residue that is left in the shower, usually on the removable shower head which I need to use to get clean because I’m a big dude and just leaving it up there doesn’t reach everywhere.
Jess has always been aware of my allergies, she doesn’t eat nuts if she knows we’re going to do anything together and the few times when she has, she thoroughly brushes her teeth before seeing me.