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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/distantvolcano on 2023-08-12 19:24:51.
Some context. We’ve been together for 3.5 years, all great in the relationship, there’s lot of cuddling, loving, caring between us but unfortunately not much sex in the past 2 years (by not much I mean 1x a month to 1x every 4 months). I have been trying to approach him and initiate sex many times, and he’d turn me down a lot. He was the one with the low libido in general, but was always saying he recognizes that’s an issue, he cares about me, finds me pretty and will try to solve.
Fast forward to June this year, I told him pretty seriously that I feel we should do something about our sex life, and in July he told me that he didn’t always find me attractive because of pubic hair or some extra weight. Mind you I had put on 10 pounds for some time which I’ve lost, and was never beyond the “what’s healthy for my height” scale. I also told him that there were many times he rejected me even when I’d be fully waxed, so I feel he’s putting on more responsibility to me about our situation than he should.
He’s very adamant, says he wishes he could change what he’s attracted to but can’t and that I make a big deal about it. I’m starting to doubt myself, I definitely don’t want to break up over a reason as petty as pubic hair, but it breaks me knowing that the love of my life would ever put that much importance on how my hair looks.