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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/izzert on 2023-08-12 07:40:14.
Hi. My bf (mid-20s M) and I (mid-20s F) been dating over 5 years.
His mom (60s F) is a lot. I kind of avoid going to things she might be at or going out to eat with her. I’ll mentioned how my job is going, she started going on about how I only got hired because I’m a woman. She’s mentioned this multiple times. It is blatantly false. She likes implying I’m just a diversity hire and acting like I don’t know anything. I think it’s because I’m working at a higher paid position than my bf.
If we mention doing stuff slightly non traditionally, she’ll act weird about it. For example, we split cooking 50/50. We mentioned he was cooking that night to her. She got offended that I wouldn’t be cooking. It was really bizarre.
She’ll also sometimes go on these weird rants to me about how it’s unsafe to do certain things as a woman. Never walk alone anywhere at night. Never travel anywhere alone. She’s trying to give me tips, but it just seems really paranoid and unhelpful. I just want to say “fuck off I’ll do what I want”. Never had an issue doing my own thing. I go on hikes alone and travel alone.
I never know what to say back to her. I don’t want to be too outwardly rude, but I want to stand up for myself in these situations.